How to tell your family and friends that you are eloping
Congratulations, you and your partner have decided that you want to get married on your own terms. You want to elope instead of a traditional wedding. At some point, you will have to talk about it to your loved ones. How do you tell your friends and family that you are eloping?
Many couples know very early on that they would prefer to elope but they simply don’t know how to tell their friends and families. They fear disappointment or arguments rising from their decision. Especially if your family expects a traditional wedding, it is important to approach this topic with understanding and compassion. If their first reaction is disappointment, then possibly because they want to share a special moment with you. However, of course, your friends and family want the best for you and want you to experience the day of your dreams.
Tip #1: Don’t make it a surprise.
It’s easy to put off hard conversations. Especially when you know your friends and family would love to celebrate with you, it’s best to drop hints early on. If you have mentioned elopements in the past already, it won’t be much of a shock when you announce your decision.
Tip #2: Have the conversation in person.
Emails or text messages often dilute what you are trying to say. It’s much easier for your friends and family to feel happy and excited for you when they see how much you are looking forward to it in person. Making the time to have this conversation also shows how much you value your relationship with that person. Show them some pictures and inspiration to help them picture what it will be like and what you love about it.
Tip #3: Explain your reasons.
Yes, your family may be disappointed at first. However, they really want the best for you - and they will understand once you explain your reasons. Come prepared and explain to them, why you are choosing to elope. Many people have a prejudice against elopements because they used to be a secretive way of forming a bond for life. Nowadays, there are many good reasons to elope. For example:
It’s cheaper than a traditional wedding.
You get to see an epic location of your choice.
It’s more intimate and personal. Sometimes, you don’t want to share your big emotions in front of everyone.
It’s stress-free and completely about you
It’s socially responsible during a global pandemic like Corona.
Check out our 5 reasons why eloping is the way to go during Corona
Tip #4: Share your memories with them later.
Eloping doesn’t mean you will keep it all to yourself. You will come back with your heart full of beautiful memories to share with your loved ones. Choosing a destination wedding doesn’t mean you can’t have it all. You can always celebrate afterwards. If you don’t feel like a big party, you could have a small gathering or dinner instead and show your pictures.
Tip #5: Find an alternative event.
Okay, maybe this is exactly what you don’t want to do. If you don’t want to celebrate with friends and family, that is absolutely valid and okay. However, maybe you can compromise and invite them to a brunch or throw a selfmade party to celebrate your elopement and share the stories, photos and videos of your special day with them!